Successful Relationships in College….I think not!!

What exactly is the definition of a relationship, and why do students get into them while in college? Is it the spending the time with that special one who you will grow to love and care about? Is it being with the one you think about even in your dreams? Is it to hopefully find that one to call your husband or wife OR….is it just the SEX or just the LUST or just the COMPANIONSHIP?

When entering a relationship, what is it that you see in the other person? Is it there personality? Is it the way they make you laugh and smile. Is it the way they hold you so tightly in your arms? Is it the way you can be yourself and talk to that person about any and everything without them judging you or looking at you different or weird? Or is it because that person is “sexy as hell” or “fine as ever” or “p.h.a.t. as ****”?

Through experience and from what I’ve seen, the art of relationships while in college is DEAD. Both partners get into it thinking it’s going to be so great and perfect.

But after the trust issues, jealousy, flirting, arguments, and more, a thing called REALITY kicks in.

Is there such thing as the perfect relationship……HELL NO!

College is an experience of its own in which many will never forget. It is where we make stupid mistakes, where we learn from them, where we grow past them, and become even better people than before.

It is where you also learn who YOU really are, who your REAL friends really are, and what your place is in society, and throughout the campus community.

Who‘s to blame for the break up? Why are things so difficult? Why can’t the relationship last?

As the saying goes, “It’s easier said than done” and relationships in college fit in with that category without a doubt.

Being in a relationship while in college is a task of its own. Having to worry about your classes, a job, ones social life, athletics, and more is already a lot to handle and also stressful at times, and being in a relationship may add to it.

What are the problems you ask, and why are your friends or maybe even you single?

Tune in next week to find out………………

Young Fresh

Is It Better to Have Loved and Lost?? part 1

So we have all heard the quote,

"It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all".

But is that true?

How often has one loved, lost and felt good about it?

So I have this question.

If you send a text message and don't get a reply, does your Ex-Girlfriend still smile when she gets it?

So the other day, I sent a text message over to an Ex of mine.

It was nothing overt, no "I love you", not even a "Hi". It said a phrase that she made when we were dating, I just wanted to let her know that I remembered something. And after sending it, I didn't get a reply.
It wasn't all on my mind (yea it was), but I wondered what she felt about it?

Did she check it out?

Did she get it and Smile?

That's what I wanted to know, that's what the goal was.

Questions that need to be answered:

Did she Smile?

Does she still think about me?
What has she been doing?
How does she feel about me?

It got me feeling like Bryan McKnight

"Do I ever cross your mind anytime"

Maybe I'm just stuck, (we will discuss oneitis later),

or maybe I have some thoughts regarding past relationships that some of you do?...

Let Me Know.., don't tell me I'm all by myself....

Mr. Talented

p.s.,... I leave ya'll with L.L.

"When I'm alone in my room sometimes I stare at the wall
and in the back of my mind I hear my conscience call
Telling me I need a girl who's as sweet as a dove
for the first time in my life, I see I need love"

80>20 Rule

Are you down: 80/ 20 rule-?

People always think and wonder about what life brings them. You go through so much but for what reason exactly?
You start asking yourself all types of questions like why can’t I pass this damn test, or where did Hell did all my Money go to so fast when I just got paid last week, and many more.
Lately, the biggest questions being asked are about a boyfriend/girlfriend or about that person you have a crush on. You have girls are asking questions like:

“where are all if any good men go”

“why is he doing this and that to me if he’s suppose to love me”

“Why can’t I just find the right one for me?”.

Then there are the guys, asking questions like,

“Why are you always nagging me?”

“Why are you getting so emotional?”

There’s so much that a girl or guy wants, but seem to never find or get what they want.

Some Saturdays’ ago, I went to go see, “Why did I get married,” and found myself relating to certain parts and happenings from the movie.

If you have not seen it yet, go for yourself or for your girlfriend/boyfriend. It'll shed some light onto issues that present themselves in relationships, it'll be good for you both. Out of all the themes, issues, and guidance that the movie gives, the biggest one for me was the 80/20 Rule.

Let’s break it down this 80/20 rule….

In relationships, you will only get about 80% of what you want and need. That 80 can be a variety of things. It can be what you have now, or what you might have just ended your relationship with, or even what you just want. The question you need to ask yourself is, do I have it? or not at all?. The problem is that it’s usually after the break up where one may realize that they were really getting that 80% but just didn’t realize it. After being single for a little while, you may come across another male or female who might seem like they are the one (AT FIRST) for you. It is then that you realize that this new person is only giving you 20% of what you really want, and that you left 80% behind.

I’m not saying stay and wait forever to find out if you’re getting that 80%, but just think real hard about what you’re not getting. If there is more good than bad, that should tell you something. If there are more happy than sad times should also make you think about things. So take it is, think a little, and don’t stress yourself. That one is out there. Just let it come to you. I leave you with this African Proverb, "When searching for your mate look with both eyes, so you can look for exactly what you want. When you find that person, close one eye". In other words, after you decide that you've found that person, understand that you will need to compromise and not dwell on the 20% of things that might upset you.

Rule for the day...80>20....

(Survey)

So……have you found your 80?

1. Yes

2. No

3. Not sure

please comment....

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YOUNG FRESH...